Connection, Conversations, Craving More
March 13th, 2025
NOTICING AND WONDERING
I think a lot about the psychology of human connection - especially how we engage with people we don’t know. The American Psychological Association (APA) found that people crave deeper connection with strangers, even though we tend to underestimate how fulfilling those interactions can be (APA Study).
By way of reminder, we are hardwired for connection. Social interaction isn't just a nice-to-have - it’s a fundamental part of our psychology, influencing our well-being, decision-making, and even team performance.
Next week I will be at Transform in Vegas meeting new people and keeping this insight top of mind.
In general, I notice - people often default to surface-level interactions, yet light up when asked something deeper.
I wonder - what would happen if we all intentionally engaged in more meaningful conversations even in unexpected settings?
The APA study showed that deep conversations - even with strangers - make us feel happier and more connected than we expect. And yet, we hesitate, often out of fear that others won’t be receptive. But when given the chance, most people appreciate and welcome depth.
What might shift if we approached networking and casual conversations with curiosity rather than obligation? What if we asked better questions - ones that unlock insight, vulnerability, and real connection? I will keep this top of mind next week at Transform, and I invite you to think about this too.
A QUOTE TO THINK ABOUT
“To connect with strangers in a deeply personal way is one of the most valuable skills you can develop.”
DEEP-ish QUESTIONS
When was the last time you had a surprisingly deep conversation with a stranger? What made it memorable?
What’s a question you wish more people asked you?
If you could redesign how people engage at networking events, what would you change to make conversations more meaningful?
SOMETHING TO TRY
The 3-Question Challenge: Next time you meet someone new - whether at a conference, coffee shop, or team meeting - go beyond, “What do you do?” and ask:
What’s something that has your attention right now?
What’s a recent experience that surprised you?
If you could instantly gain clarity on one thing, what would it be?
Notice how the conversation shifts when you invite depth. People often appreciate the chance to share something real. Let me know what you discover!
ANNOUNCEMENT
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Thanks for reading and keep on connecting.
Best,
Bobbi
Bobbi Wegner, Psy.D.
Founder and CEO of Groops: helping teams feel and function their best
Lecturer at Harvard University in Industrial-Organizational Psychology
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